Knowing Yourself

6:28 PM

I might be a bit young, but in my nearly 18 years I've spent an immense amount of time trying to know myself and discover who I am. I believe it's made getting past peer pressure, finding good friends, and learning what I want in the future a lot easier for me.

I'm going to try and not make this all about being introverted, this post is not only for introverted eyes, but...

It's EXTREMELY easy in America to believe that being quiet is wrong. People will tell you being quiet is bad, and they will try to change you to better suit the world that they're living in. If you're quiet, and struggling trying to fit and and be the loud, bubbly person that all the other kids are...don't change yourself. Simply find good ways to adapt to situations in which you must be a little bit louder, for example a speech or presentation in class. Being in a world of talkative people does not mean you must change yourself to fit this mold. 

See, from a young age I've been very interested in personality and the psychology behind it. I guess it's because in a world of EXTROVERT EXTROVERT EXTROVERT I felt a little bit better knowing that my contribution to society was normal, acceptable, and quite rare. Which is why I can't stand when people put themselves down saying "I'm too quiet."

This recently happened to me, as my older brother is interviewing for an internship at a business where he has to sell insurance to people in order to do well.
"You're a perfect fit for this job," The interviewer told him, "You have everything we're looking for,"
My older brother smiled, awaiting the interviewers next response.
"The only thing is..." he pauses, "If you want this internship, you need to become less quiet,"

I understand that for the job he needs to be a little more sociable, but the interviewer believes that my older brother needs to change his whole personality for the business...which is just an internship.

While it would be great experience for my brother, I hate that he's so eager to change himself for someone/something else. I feel that if he knew himself better, then he would have an easier time figuring out what kind of internship/job to pick. The entire thing is making him believe that being the way he is, is BAD. I don't know about you, but I don't like that.

What advice do I give to you as to getting to know yourself?

  • Spend free time alone
  • Write in a journal, reflecting on the day
  • Take a personality test
  • Make a list of your likes/dislikes

No matter what personality you have, I promise you that if you get to know yourself better it will lead to in the right direction. Having a good sense of who you are is substantial in making everyday life decisions. It may seem like a relatively easy task, but it's not. You really need to delve in side of yourself to figure out the best thing for yourself. You might just find yourself in a situation when you realize ehhhhh, that's not for me. And that my friends, is a good thing, knowing yourself well enough to make proper decisions. 

Until next time,

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