Body-shaming is Unacceptable. Period.4:02 PM
Excuse my pictures. My drawing ability hasn't advanced since the fourth grade. They get the point across, though.
The other night my family got back from my birthday dinner just as the Billboard Music Awards were about to start. We watched primarily for the premiere of Taylor Swift's Bad Blood music video, which features a group of empowering women in the media today. I loved the message it sent - girl power (more on that later).
Later in the show, Kelly Clarkson sang one of her newer songs. Recently a new mother, Clarkson has gained a bit of weight and doesn't look like she used to. My best friend, Alyssa, was sitting next to me, texting a boy-friend about the show when he says something along the lines of:
She had that baby like a year ago, she should have her weight back together by now.
First of all, weight loss isn' easy. It's difficult to lose five, ten, 20, or however many pounds.
Second of all, having a baby and raising a child is hard. When you have a child, you're signing a contract that says 'My life is no longer just about bettering myself, it's about this child'. That includes many things, including weight. I doubt Kelly has an infinite amount of time on her hands to focus on losing weight, she's handling a child now, a life.
Third of all, who is he (who is anyone) to judge where someone should be at with their body? Just because he thinks Kelly Clarkson should be smaller doesn't mean she should actually be. Maybe Kelly's really happy with where she's at right now, maybe she's working on it. Maybe she's just living her life and it's none of our business.
Have body-shaming people ever stopped to realize that someone else's body is none of their concern? Whether or not someone is in a size two or a size ten shouldn't matter to anyone but the person wearing the jeans.
Ridiculing someone because they're overweight is shameful and petty, and so is doing the same for someone who's smaller. I'm the kind of person that supports people no matter what their weight is - you're a 00? Awesome. You're a 20? Awesome. It's unfair to judge someone based on what their weight is, and often the media portrays the only body to have as skinny. Skinny is good, but fat, curvy, chubby, any other weight, are good too. If you need to hear that, I could say it a million times for you: however much you weight looks perfect on you, God made you the way you are, SKINNY IS GOOD, CHUBBY IS GOOD, FAT IS GOOD. YOU ARE AMAZING. *segway into to John Legend's "All of You"*
The way I see it, weight is just as much of a preference as eye color or hair color. Different ones work great on people, but you can't change the one you were given (most of the time). Some people are born with blue eyes, brown hair, and a busty body. Some are born with brown eyes, red hair, and a super thin body. Sometimes it just isn't our choice what we're given, especially concerning genes and certain medical dysfunctions which don't allow someone to be that "ideal" weight, but we learn to love ourselves. Learn to love others, too.
I know for a fact that people stand with me on this, and that the boy she was talking to might even be in a minority after how much talk has been done on this subject. It just got me upset, so I decided to write about it. There are various reasons why people aren't the media's idea of the "ideal" weight, and it's so unfair to judge someone based on that.
How would you react if someone sent you a text like that?
I hope you're having a great start to the weekend,